I have a huge tip for you today, this one will help you be a happier, less-stressed blogger! …
Don’t try to reach some one else’s goals.
It can be hard not to get caught up the competitiveness of blogging. “oh, she’s that size I need to be that size too” or “Her post got shared that many times, why didn’t mine”. All the numbers and the income and comparisons can take us to an unhealthy place.
Which is why we need to each have our own goals. Don’t try to live some one else’s dream, and never be jealous of it, because you don’t know what she’s giving up to live her dream.
Dreams require sacrifices. We all have unique gifts, capabilities and stages of life. There will be times when our blogs must take a back seat while family issues are worked through. There will be other days when the blog can shine brightly as a higher priority in life. This looks different for every person. And every year.
Set your goals. Realistic dreams for your own future. And when you find yourself looking at your blog wishing it was as bright and shiny or viral as your friend’s, take a moment to think about your goals. Maybe you’d rather spend extra time with your family, or you have goals in life in addition to blogging. That’s not to say your friend has her goals out of whack, just that yours are different. Different is good. As long as we remember our differences and find joy in them.
So when you find yourself comparing your blog to the dreams of some one else… Take a moment to stop and remember why you are where you are. There is value in blogs of all sizes, and in lives lived to their fullest extent, even when the page views are smaller or the shares lesser.
Comparison should drive you forward to help you reach your own dreams. Not some one else’s.